But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Galatians 5: 22-23
Where did that come from? Do I really believe that? No. But I do know where it came from. I can still hear discussion as someone shared that they were praying for patience and immediately many in the group chimed in: Be careful what you pray for. If you pray for patience, God will bring all kinds of trials into your life!
OK, to me that sounds like a mixture of superstition and a really twisted imagine of the Father who loves us. I’ve never heard anyone express caution in praying for love or joy or peace or kindness, although self-control does get flagged occasionally.
A fruit is a fruit. We may like some better than others, but God, Who likes us better than anything, picked the fruit. He seems intent on the whole basket.