I Love You

It is probably impossible to love any human being simply “too much”. We may love him too much in proportion to our love for God; but it is the smallness of our love for God, not the greatness of our love for the man, that constitutes the inordinacy. … But the question whether we are loving God or the earthly Beloved “more” is not, so far as concerns our Christian duty, a question about the comparative intensity of two feelings. The real question is, which(when the alternative comes) do you serve, or choose , or put first? To which claim does your will, in the last resort, yield. Β  ~ C.S. Lewis

I hear people talk about how we say I love you too often. Do we, I wonder?

I used to be careful about love. I’d try to make sure I loved other people just as much as they loved me, never more. It’s as odd as sharing french fries and counting them out first to make sure we each have the exact same number.

I used to be embarrassed about love. What if I said I love you and the other person, friend or family, didn’t say I love you back? That’s why I quit telling my cousin that I loved him after I was 10 or 11. I knew he wasn’t the I love you type. I hope, when he died, he knew I loved him. I know he didn’t have any idea how much.

I’ve been stingy with love. I’ve stored it up, protecting my heart from hurt, as if there could be a run on the bank and my reserves might be diminished. It turns out that’s exactly what I needed – diminished reserves, or at least diminished reservations.

I’ll be honest. I wasn’t afraid I’d love someone more than I love God. I was afraid I’d love people more than they loved me. I’ve never loved anyone too much. I’ve only loved God too little.

I Corinthians 13 is a call to the guarded heart. Love! Love wholeheartedly! Love with intensity and passion and promise! Love whether you are loved back or not! Out love whenever you can! And, out of love, yield wholly to the Lover of your soul!

Author: Debbie

A former counselor and public speaker, I'm grateful for many, many things - God's grace most of all!

12 thoughts on “I Love You”

  1. Debbie, you have my eyes leaking again. Or more, He has my eyes leaking through your words. I have been one to say “I love you” and sign everything “love, deb”. But then I notice that others don’t do this and think maybe I’m being too weird and simple and foolish and should stop. But here you come along and I remember that we are told to LOVE others and I don’t have to turtle-up, but can go ahead with my Love you’s. πŸ™‚ God bless you and your love of Him and others.
    love you!
    the other deb

    1. Dearest other Deb –
      The cousin that I mentioned was 2 years older than me.
      I loved him so much. We planned to grow up and get married until we were in grade school and found out 1st cousins can’t marry.
      He shot himself when he was 32.
      I’m OK with embarrassing myself now by saying I love you and not hearing it back. Not everyone is comfortable with that and I get it. But I’m not going to quit telling people anymore.
      I’ve been amazed by your tender heart since I first began reading your comments on Pastor Wrinkles blog and then on your own. πŸ™‚
      I love you, too.

    1. Ruth – Thank you for your kind words.
      FB is a conundrum for me. I’ve almost dropped it many times, but It’s the only way I keep in touch with my far scattered friends.

    1. Susie – My friend, Kari, generously allows me to use her photos from time to time. She chose the verse, which made the rest necessary. You can’t really read I Corinthians 13 and be anything but honest, can you? πŸ˜€
      It’s my turn to pray for your day (it’s 12:02 in Texas so you’re new day should still just be a dream as I pray for you.)
      ~ Debbie

    1. Jeanne – a favorite of yours? or are you noticing that I quote him all the time? πŸ˜‰
      Love beyond measure, means a fearless love. That’s something I can only do by God’s grace.
      ~ Debbie

  2. I can relate. I too have lived through all the mixed up feelings and thoughts about love — with everyone but my Lord. Praise God He has taught us how to love! There are some that are so hard to love in our own human strength, but I have found that God will love them through us if we just let Him. All we have to do is let go of our feelings and let Him fill us with His love for them. What a beautiful thing!

    1. Drusilla – You make a very good point that I didn’t address in this post – loving the hard to love. I’ve often mistaken liking for loving. I don’t believe we’re called to like, but we are called to love! And if He requires anything, He supplies the grace!
      ~ Debbie

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