Stop trying to protect, to rescue, to judge, to manage the lives around you. Remember that the lives of others are not your business. They are their business. They are God’s business. Even your own life is not your business. It also is God’s business. Leave it to God. It is an astonishing thought. It can become a life-transforming thought . . . unclench the fists of your spirit and take it easy. ~ Frederick Beuchner
Now here’s a challenging concept. Not only is your business none of my business, my business is none of my business, too.
These are two equally difficult lessons to learn: holding my tongue and unclenching my fists.
Several years ago I read a wonderful book Don’t Take My Grief Away by Doug Manning. He recounts the variety of responses others had to his personal grief.
People alternately insisted on correcting, rescuing, managing and judging him. In particular, he was grieved by those who were keen on telling him what God wanted him to do; how God wanted him to conduct himself.
The reply of this faithful, weary soul to those who claimed to speak for God,was something like this:
Did God indeed tell you that about me? He hasn’t said a word to me about it. If God is talking to you about me behind my back, then He needs to stop gossiping.
Your life, my life, it’s all God’s business. God grant me the grace to know when to hold my tongue and when I need to unclench my fists.